Dating Advice 101: Finding the Fairy Tale

Relationship counseling is better than a dating site!! I will help you find the BEST person for you by helping you understand you.  We will explore who you are, what you want in a relationship and how your previous experiences imprint your decisions now. This is the dating advice you have been looking for!


You can then use the information from our counseling to meet someone online that fits what you want in a new relationship. In fact, I will even help you write a dynamic profile for the online dating sites, assuring that you draw in a better mix of people that suit you.


Here’s the work:

One of my clients pushed hard to stop dating a very nice man, one who treated her better than anyone else had. I pushed back saying that she should stay a little while longer. He remained patient as she tried to figure out if he was the right person.  Finally, she realized that he was the one she wanted to share her stories with at the end of the day. Once she realized that she looked forward to seeing him and talking with him, she knew he was the right fit for her. They have recently moved in together with the goal of marriage. To find the right relationship, you often have to learn to be patient and not expect sparks to fly suddenly.


That is what fairy tales are about! I will help you find your real-life fairy tale romance


Relationship Advice: Improve Your Dating

As I work with my clients, I help  them find and revel their true  selves. During this process, they become able to clarify and embrace  their goals for both personal and  professional lives and make those  “changes” that support their search  for a partner who fits best with their  lifestyle.

“Susan” came to me trying to understand why she just couldn’t find a man who would be stable enough to continue a relationship. As we talked, it became apparent that she was choosing the same type of person time and time again without realizing it. They all had different degrees of personality, education, and career, but, ultimately,  none of those men could sustain the early weeks/months of “ behaving well”, so to speak.
Susan began to look at her history and reasons why she chose the men she did. We worked to create a profile for her and the man she hoped was out there for her. Not an “online profile” but rather a personal inventory of who she is, what she wanted in life and future goals.
It became clear that she sought out men who did not fit her “ personal inventory and dreams”. Once she began narrowing down the type of person she really wanted, she found someone! Her new boyfriend is a better fit better than anyone she previously dated. The result is that Susan is happier because her needs are being met. Together, we continue to focus on what is different this time around.
Having that clear vision helps.  Self-discovery is an eye-opening experience, and the rewards are great.
The service I provide helps you to figure out what has worked or not worked, who you are, what you want out of life, what your values are, and what you future goals are. Sometimes this also includes financial goals, and if you chose someone with different financial habits, you might find yourself extremely frustrated. 
I see many people hanging onto unfulfilling relationships only to experience anger, anxiety and frustrations.
As a relationship consultant, who also happens to be a licensed clinical therapist, we will talk through six major points that influence your relationships.
Expectations, what are yours, and your partner?
Understanding yourself and who your partner is, is an important factor healthy relationship. We must remember there are differences in outlooks, gender influences and the realization that both our families and our upbringings have had a huge influence on our outlooks on life and relationships. 
My relationship counseling will help you understand yourself so that you can pick the right person. Developing the skills to a build healthy relationship is not uncommon. Most of us learned by watching our parents’ or parent’s relationship(s), so we may have seen the red flags, but ignored them. But, by really getting to know yourself you learn to identify the red flags and not ignore them!  I will give you the tools to help you see a positive future, take chances, move forward, and let go of the past.
Please feel free to comment, or ask me questions. 
I’m passionate about helping people find a better way to a satisfying and happy future. See you soon!

Honesty in Dating: Relationship Advice


When you are dating, it can be tempting to want to stretch the truth. Whatever you are insecure about, like your age or your weight, will be the things that you want to cover up. You are not alone.

In fact, 81 percent of people that do online dating, misrepresent their height, weight or age in their profiles, according to a recent study at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. We do this even though we know that honesty is one of the most important values in a long-term relationship. It can make or break a relationship as it establishes trust in one another. Trust and honesty go hand in hand. And they are not just things you should sometimes do in a relationship, but the things you should always do.

To be honest with yourself, you have to think about what you want to lie about in your dating and why. There is strength in being vulnerable and showing who you are. It makes dating more fun and relaxed when you can be yourself without worry or pretense. In the long run, don’t you want a person that you can relax around, a person that accepts and loves the unique being that your are and a person that you can be honest with?

To be honest with another individual, you must be honest with yourself about who you are and what type of person fits you best. Making peace with the past helps. Feeling that you are strong from your past and healed from your wounds helps when you are meeting a new person to bring into your life.

To be real, ask questions when you are dating. Be bold in the adventure of getting to know someone new and learning about their lives. Yes, this is going to bring more questions about your life too. Good! Share with courage knowing that you are honest, and that will lead to somewhere special.

And if, in your dating journey, there are people that reject the “real” you, shift your thinking. This is a good outcome and a huge time saver! Honesty is your game changer. It allows you to create the life you want and bring in people that reflect the same. I encourage you to be bold in who you are. There are billions of people on this planet, and the truth will help you find the one that matches fits into your life.

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