When you are dating, it can be tempting to want to stretch the truth. Whatever you are insecure about, like your age or your weight, will be the things that you want to cover up. You are not alone.
In fact, 81 percent of people that do online dating, misrepresent their height, weight or age in their profiles, according to a recent study at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. We do this even though we know that honesty is one of the most important values in a long-term relationship. It can make or break a relationship as it establishes trust in one another. Trust and honesty go hand in hand. And they are not just things you should sometimes do in a relationship, but the things you should always do.
To be honest with yourself, you have to think about what you want to lie about in your dating and why. There is strength in being vulnerable and showing who you are. It makes dating more fun and relaxed when you can be yourself without worry or pretense. In the long run, don’t you want a person that you can relax around, a person that accepts and loves the unique being that your are and a person that you can be honest with?
To be honest with another individual, you must be honest with yourself about who you are and what type of person fits you best. Making peace with the past helps. Feeling that you are strong from your past and healed from your wounds helps when you are meeting a new person to bring into your life.
To be real, ask questions when you are dating. Be bold in the adventure of getting to know someone new and learning about their lives. Yes, this is going to bring more questions about your life too. Good! Share with courage knowing that you are honest, and that will lead to somewhere special.
And if, in your dating journey, there are people that reject the “real” you, shift your thinking. This is a good outcome and a huge time saver! Honesty is your game changer. It allows you to create the life you want and bring in people that reflect the same. I encourage you to be bold in who you are. There are billions of people on this planet, and the truth will help you find the one that matches fits into your life.