How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day Without a Partner


How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day Without a Partner

Valentine’s Day is often looked at as the holiday for dating. Restaurants want you to dine with them on their special menu, romantic comedies premiere, and it can seem like everyone is planning out their day of love.

Valentine’s Day is often looked at as the holiday for dating. Restaurants want you to dine with them on their special menu, romantic comedies premiere, and it can seem like everyone is planning out their day of love.

 But what to do if you are single?

Do you pine away, hoping someone, anyone, will ask you out so that you too can experience the joy of a Valentine’s Day date? Think about it…is this what you want? A date with any Joe Schmoe or Jane Doe can easily become a qualifier for an “America’s Worst Dates” show and seem like the longest night of your life.


Instead, think about how great it is that you are in charge of your date with yourself. You don’t have to sit anywhere and pretend to enjoy someone’s conversation. You can do whatever you want to do. What do you want to do- what makes you happy??? Valentine’s Day is your day to shower yourself some self-love. Do you love flowers? Buy yourself some! I guarantee you will still love to see those flowers on your dining room table even if they didn’t come from a date.


Being content can be a product of perception. This Valentine’s Day, begin with feeling content by thinking of three things that you are grateful for and writing them down. Then start the pampering process! A walk through a museum or outside in nature can be deeply soothing and supportive to the bio-rhythms we experience when we feel loved.


Call a friend that you haven’t spoken to in a while. Or volunteer somewhere for a few hours. Helping others is one of the best ways to increase your happiness.


The point is to celebrate!

Plan out your day so that you honor yourself with a sense of love and appreciation. Your self-worth is not linked in any way to having a date. But self-worth is linked to how well we care for ourselves. As John Lennon said,, “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”


Love yourself first and enjoy your very special, totally self-guided Valentine’s Day!


Tips to Fight Holiday Loneliness


Tips to Fight Holiday Loneliness

Tips to Fight Holiday Loneliness


After a break-up, there is always that first holiday season faced being on your own. Depending on your situation, there might be a feeling of liberation. But for many people, being alone on the holidays can bring out feelings of loneliness, anxiety and even depression. When we think of the holidays, we often think of being surrounded with others. You may have memories of holidays spent with a partner, recalling the joy of gift giving or shopping together.

I know my first holiday season after my divorce was rough. I felt like I was on uneven ground, not sure how to approach a season that had always been defined by being a family unit. Over the years, it got better, and I realized that I got to make the holiday exactly how I wanted it to be. It felt good to be the decision maker.

I made it through that first holiday season on my own and you can too. Here are some broad tips for being single and loving it:

1. Create a new “family” tradition.

Family doesn’t have to be a traditional structure. Family can consist of good friends and people that you love. Spend the holidays with them and don’t wait for the invite, ask. Most people will love to have you.

2. Help others

Nothing is more grounding than helping people in the community. If you have a service, provide it for free to someone that couldn’t normally afford it. Help at a food bank or something that appeals you. You will be surprised at how energized the body and mind feel after being generous with others.

3. Focus on the positive.

Notice your tendencies and when you feel out of alignment with “joy”. You can change your interactions with others by slowing down. You can even change your interactions just by focusing on the good and positive. Do more of the good and positive.

4. Be moderate.

Your enjoyment of the season is just as important as everyone else’s. Make sure you are not overdoing it just to mask the loneliness or depression you feel.

5. Get outside

We tend to spend a lot of time indoors this time of year with shopping and eating. Even if your area of the country is cold, bundle up and get some fresh air. Go for a walk and contemplate the beauty of your surroundings. A guided hike is a great way to meet other people, too. Or really go for the great outdoors and plan a solo trip- there are tons of group travel options where you could meet other people like on a yoga retreat.

Just because you are single, does not mean you have to lonely. There are so many ways to get involved and connect with others during the holidays. And there are so many people in your community that could benefit from your help. Get involved, connect with others and watch how love can grow within you.

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